Posts Tagged ‘kids’

So What If….

Saturday, September 12th, 2009

Did you ever get the feeling that in today’s world the respect parents once had is gone?
I remember when I was a kid that it was kind of written in stone that you respected your parents, or even if you really didn’t respect them at least you gave them common courtesies.  That has been lost some place over the years as I have gone from black hair to ever more controlling gray.  When you were growing up didn’t you just find it the norm to tell the people that you live with, aka your parents, if you were going out some place, weren’t going to be home for dinner, or even basically what your plans were for the weekend or even just for that day?
Well that I guess is no longer fashionable to do.  Now don’t get me wrong, my kids are good kids and thank God they aren’t into the truly bad things that kids these days can and a lot of the time are dragged into.  Some even say that I should be grateful that “small things” like this are all I am complaining about with them.  Well you know what I say to that – Hoowie!! 
What am I ranting about must be crossing your mind right about now.  Well, here goes…
Back ground:
Younger daughter, just turned 20, drives a new Trailblazer that I bought about a year ago, and am still making payments on.  She considers it “Her Car”, that is to everyone but us where she says that it isn’t what she would have picked if it was hers.  The agreement was she pays a set amount each month and she can drive it.  Ya know what, it is still I guess my car as she isn’t even paying anything towards the car, she is just paying the insurance right now.  That being such…
Gripe:
I found out today that my vehicle is going to be used as a moving truck to move her cousin back home.  Well it would have been nice to have been asked to use it for that purpose since no matter how careful you try to be something always happens to mess up the vehicle when used to move stuff. Needless to say that does not make me happy.
Next, I decided to make a nice meatloaf dinner with potatoes, fresh green beans, salad and corn on the cob for dinner tonight and the wife was planning a niece Roast Beef dinner with all of the sides for Sunday, a great idea since everyone is all over the place during the week a nice meal on the weekend is a yummy way to catch up with each other.  No dice, last night I found out the oldest isn’t planning to be home tonight, she decided to make it a game night/sleep over at her Aunt’s house, that is where her cousin is moving to, and possibly won’t be home tomorrow either.  That usually means that the young one will not be home tonight either.  So much for a nice dinner this weekend.  The rule we do have for stuff like this is they are supposed to write down on the calendar, at least a few days in advance, when they will not be home for dinner and if they aren’t going to be home at all.  A little common courtesy for the people you live with not to be freaking out that you aren’t home at night when you think that they are going to be!!

Am I wrong and over reacting?  Is it that we are being smothering?  Do we have a right to be a bit perturbed?

What is your call on this? 

The King would like to know!

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Hi Dad I Love You, Now Give Me Some Money!

Friday, November 3rd, 2006

Ah Kids Ya Gotta Love ‘Em!!

Yep the joy of your life, the major cause of Gray Hair and a great source of love and affection! Or so they tell you!!! Don’t get me wrong I love my girls immensely and would do or give them anything in my power. However, no one said that they come with strings attached!! wink They may be hugging you and showing affection, but in reality they are just buttering you up to fleece you out of your last hard earned pennies!! OK I may sound bitter here, and I probably have two of the greatest kids in the world, they aren’t into drugs, don’t smoke and aren’t slutty or anything like that, they just need to learn the value of a dollar and that the fountain of parent’s can run dry!! OK in my day you take the SAT once and be happy with anything over 1000. Today if you don’t think that your score is high enough you just take it again. Take college courses take the AP and have to pay for the scores on the APs to count in college, but your college may not take the grades. Then if you want the course to count as a college credits you have to register in the local college and pay the credit costs. Argh!! Money after money after money!!! So you fork over the bucks and think that is that. Nope now they have their license and want a car. “Don’t worry Dad I’ll pay you back and I’ll pay for the increase in insurance”. grin So you get suckered in and there goes more bucks to the “kiddie”. Then one thing leads to another and she is off at school and her friends, who have two working parents, don’t have to work or pay for anything so they think that they shouldn’t have to either. Then the payments stop arriving, questions lead to frustration and oh I only work 14 hours every two weeks so I can’t pay you anything. But you find out off they go o a vacation in Canada – hotel, food, gas and fun all requiring money that she says, “I don’t have any” of. SO you do with out again and again. Then she enrolls to go off to study in England, again needing lots of $$$$ to survive there. Hmm who is getting the short end of the stick? Well who knows. I guess they say they are only young once and it is their college years, they’ll have to work hard when they graduate. Yea right. They’ll move back home and there goes the neighborhood and bucks right out the window!!

All I can say is Ya Gotta Love Em!!! Yup, I wouldn’t trade them for anything!!! smile